Healing is a choice

Healing Is a Choice

You can’t stop people from wanting to hurt you or from attempting to break your heart. That is, unfortunately, part of life. Some people are deeply lost within themselves and truly do not know how to receive love. They are still trapped in unresolved trauma, addiction, and outdated belief systems.

Many operate from a mindset shaped by what they witnessed growing up — “This is what I saw, so this is what I repeat.” Instead of healing the cycle, they keep it going. Gaslighting. Breadcrumbing. Playing the victim. Manipulating to avoid accountability. These behaviors are not love — they are survival strategies formed in pain.

Some people are chronic people-pleasers who cannot face their own reflection, let alone take responsibility for the damage they cause. They move through life disconnected from their inner self, operating from emptiness rather than intention. This isn’t said in judgment — it’s said in truth.

Healing does not require you to fix, save, or tolerate those who refuse to heal themselves. It requires discernment. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for yourself is remove yourself and let God handle what you were never meant to carry.

Yes, it may hurt — even if only for a moment. But God’s protection is far greater than temporary pain. What you lose in people, you gain in peace. What you release in attachment, you receive in clarity.

Healing is not passive.

Healing is not accidental.

Healing is a choice.

And choosing yourself is always worth it.

— Jamina Riley

Mother Oracle Gemz